Are you an introvert or an extrovert? It has nothing to do with being shy or outgoing. Yes, the person quietly sitting in the corner and not saying much is most likely an introvert, but the person who is the “life of the party” could be one too. The difference is that the latter will have to go home and take some time alone to recover from their exertions.
You can be a shy extrovert or an outgoing introvert! Many public speakers (something most people fear more than death) are actually introverts who find it easier to be on stage than engaging in small talk afterward.
I have been interested in this subject for years, so when I heard this podcast by Chalene Johnson, a motivational coach, I was happy to find one of the best explanations I have come across regarding how to figure out whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. The episode aired on Wednesday, November 26, 2014.
I have read pretty much everything I could find on personality type, especially the Myers-Briggs version of assessment. I am pretty close to the line between introvert and extrovert, so could never figure out exactly where I fit in, but now I am certain – I am a sometimes outgoing introvert who looks very much like an extrovert in social situations. This would explain how I can have a lot of fun at a party but also spend extended periods of time on my own and be completely content – a good thing when your work involves a lot of research, thinking and creating.
Discovering your personality type can be healing, especially if it turns our you are quite different from those in your family of origin. We all have strengths and weaknesses, so knowing what yours are can help you make better choices when it comes to the big decisions in life.
If you are intrigued by trying to understand yourself (and those around you), here is a free online personality typing test (based on the Myers-Briggs method) so you can get an idea of where you fit in.